Sunday, November 20, 2011

Saying Goodbye to the Old.....................

As most of you know, I have set aside Sundays for spiritual inspiration. I realize by the time I get this posted, it will be almost 11pm central time. Yes, I’m off track again. Don’t worry it’s 4am for me in the morning- I’m tired of being off track. I have had an overwhelming weekend to say the least. I have a few things I’d like to share this evening, some of it spiritually inspiring, and some of it not so much. Hang in there with me!

Here it goes:

A few weeks ago we made the decision to close the retail portion of our flower shop. It wasn’t a decision made in haste, as we have been considering it since early spring. It was very difficult for me to let go of the store, so it has taken some prying. I love what I do, but it had not been working for us for some time. We have been off course as a family for awhile now.  We have recognized this and decided to correct and align. We sat down three weeks ago today- the four of us, and made the decision together as a family to close Miss Duffy’s. I went in Monday morning and papered the windows, closed my online store, and began the process. It was a really rough first week, but now things have settled. I have a peace we have made the right decision for our family. I will continue the flower and plant portion of my business in a more unconventional way. We’re only on this earth once, and who says things have to be done the way they have always been done. We have realized that 90% of our business happens via the phone, so I am setting up shop in my home. I think a few will hate this idea, but I’ve had an overwhelming positive response from my loyal customers who trust me to serve them well wherever I am. We are hoping this will allow me more time at home with my family. When I am pulling all nighters for funeral work or other occasions, I can easily make a healthy meal, help with home work, and be around at bedtime. I’m excited for the change. I am excited that it’s even a possibility- I feel blessed. I really wish I’d had the courage to take this leap a few years ago- I’ve missed a lot. I have been feeling the need to disclose this to you ladies, but I wasn’t ready until now. I’m an optimistic person, so despite the uncertainty, I think this is going to be fun! I’ll keep you informed.

On the subject of Rural Women Rock:

I believe something amazing is going to happen here on RWR. When the Lord starts moving, things really do start rocking. I believe the Lord is orchestrating something here. I’m not even sure just exactly what, but I know he is in charge. I want to reiterate the fact that this site is not about me, or Janie, but about women. It’s about you ladies telling your stories, inspiring, and encouraging one another. It’s about giving rural women a voice. It’s about becoming transparent to each other so we can grow and change. I challenge you ladies to pray for the direction of this site. Pray for the Lords protection and approval of what happens here. If we are all listening to him, we can’t be off course. I think it is much bigger than we think or could imagine, but it always is when we allow the Lord to lead.  Women lets say some Rockin prayers!

I have an amazing and encouraging story to tell about an encounter I had this weekend, but I have tried to write it for too long today. It’s eating too much of my time tonight, so I will save the details until they make more sense.

I am going to share with you a challenge given to me this weekend by an amazing woman of faith. I do hope to introduce her to you soon, but until then ladies, lets take her challenge. 

First, she told me to search the scriptures for all things concerning: Wife, Mother, Woman.

You can do this with your online version of the Bible for more immediate results. Write all the scriptures you find on note cards. Put them on a ring or in a baggie and keep them in your purse. Every idle moment meditate on the scripture. Books are great, but his word is alive! It will change your life. If you find your life is not aligned with His Word make the necessary changes.

(2 Tim 16-17 NLT)
All scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right. God uses it to prepare and equip his people to do every good work.

Secondly, she told me to lift up my husband to the Lord. Praise him, encourage him, pray for him, and tell him all the wonderful things he is to you and your family. Not just today, but everyday- every chance. Make him feel handsome, sexy, and powerful. He will come to lead your family- not by nagging, controlling, or directing, but through prayer and example.

(NLT: 1 Peter3 1-2)
In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your Godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over by observing your pure and reverent lives.

Didn’t read anything about nagging there, but here it is:

Better to live on the roof than share the house with a nagging wife. (GNB: Prov. 21.9)

Better to live out in the desert than with a nagging, complaining wife. (GNB: Prov. 21.19)

A nagging wife is like water going drip-drip-drip on a rainy day. How can you keep her quiet? Have you ever tried to stop the wind or ever tried to hold a handful of oil? (GNB: Prov. 27.15)

Finally, she told me to set my family down and apologize to them. Admit we’ve been off track. Talk about what has gotten us here, and how through the Lord things are going to change for us.   Make a plan for our lives. 

I know this seems very simple, but it was just what I needed, just when I needed it.  The Lord works in amazing ways.  He knew a woman I didn't know.  He knew she would listen.  She made her way to me, and over lunch on Saturday, she shared what the Lord had put on her heart for me.  I am blown away! God is good! Get busy on your cards and have a great week!


  1. Wonderful! Good luck with your business change, I'm sure it will be fabulous. I love your family photo :) What a great idea, Scriptures about women. I think I actually have a deck of scripture cards I received at Mother's Day. I'll have to find them!

  2. Sounds like you're on the right track. Life altering decisions can be hard to make but once you do (and they're the right ones) oh, what peace! There is a time and season for everything. Enjoy your new season. I'm so proud of you!

  3. I remember when my mom closed her store. It felt like saying goodbye to a loved one. Just the same, new seasons brings some really wonderful joys of their own, so all the best to you and your family! Making sacrifices for your children cannot be underestimated. Thank you for the Scripture.